I wish I could dress it up and make it sound sexy, but I won’t. But, what if we take the time to put a different spin on the phrase and undress it….then what does it look like?
I’m going to go out on a limb here and expose some vulnerability, because I think it’s important for people to understand how I deal with work. I also believe that there are more people just like me out there.
I’ll set the stage by sharing that at the age of 7 my parents split up and unlike most situations like this, we didn’t end up with either of our parents, we ended up with our father’s parents. (odd situation to say the least.)
I was the oldest of three, and without getting into all the psychological effects and events that take place when things like this happen I took on the role of protector, guide, big brother, father, mother and any other role that I believed needed to be in place for the safety and well being of my siblings. I didn’t do this knowingly by the way, it just happened. (That’s the psychological part.)
For the better part of my life, I really believed I was doing everything right, because I was doing everything my way. There are no grey areas, everything is black and white for me when it comes to doing things. Yes, I understand there are many ways to “skin a cat” but my way is the best way. If only people would listen to me! Wow what an environment I created for myself.
Now for the good news and the fun stuff. The undressing part to make doing the work sexy.
In 2007 I was challenged to really perform due diligence in a profession that I’d kept at arm’s length for the majority of my life. I have some very good reasons for that, but that’s a story for another day. I will tell it via this blog though. Because it’s important to tell that story.
I was introduced to an environment in the Network Marketing profession that treated work and responsibility much differently than I’d ever been exposed to in the traditional work world. Instead of creating a secret and competitive world, our culture began to expose me to a world of collaboration, trust, nurturing and giving. Those things are foreign to most of us, because it’s not what we are taught. We are taught to be self sufficient, strong, independent.
One of the icons in this profession Eric Worre, shares with us that “We Have a Better Way”, and I believe he’s right.
After some hard recovery work, I’m beginning to let go of the need to control my environment, of thinking that I have to do this all on my own, but more importantly creating an environment that others can take part in and understand that not only is it ok, to accept help, but it’s really cool when we can ask for it.
I’m accepting help on many fronts now, and in return I’m being equipped with some skills that I can offer to those who are willing to accept them from me. It’s a beautiful thing when we get to share responsibility. I now find myself surrounded by people who have great gifts and skills to share with me and in return it’s equipping me with the same gifts to offer others.
Yes we need to “DO THE WORK” but we don’t need to do it alone.
Now don’t you think that’s sexy?
Now have a great day, unless you have other plans.