Why does Grief hurt so much?


Why does Grief hurt so much? Likely because of the conditioning that the world has delivered. 

It’s sad, but it’s true, we try and deal with grief using our minds and while we are busy doing that we aren’t feeling the pain. The recovery or healing won’t take place until we are free to feel the pain.

I’ve recently become very moved and interested in a certification course that is being offered by The Grief Recovery Method.

Most of you are aware of my background and my 32 years of recovery work from Alcohol and Drug addiction. You can check it out here. Sober Half my Life Already

Well, when I heard through a discussion I was having with Timothy Meisenheimer who is the Executive Director of Capital City Mission and the Drop In that recovery was possible after loss, well needless to say I became very intrigued and so my journey and research began.

One of the most impactful truths that I was confronted with almost immediately was the fact that when it comes to Grieving and dealing with Loss, we seem to be more interested in being Intellectually accurate while being emotionally irrelevant. It’s not really our fault, it’s how we’ve been conditioned.

Here are 6 things that the world teaches us and these lessons are passed down by parents, siblings and others who have been conditioned the same way.

  1. Don’t feel bad
  2. Replace the Loss
  3. Grieve alone
  4. Just give it time
  5. Be strong for others
  6. Keep busy.

Any of this sound familiar? I know they all resonated with me.

Every one of these events keeps us from actually feeling the loss. As I dove deeper into the workbook I was amazed and happy at the same time, to find out that one could actually recover from Loss. We don’t need to wait a subscribed amount of time. The mind gets to work almost instantly. Well the teaching is that it gets to work  in as little as 15 minutes to begin building a mental list of all the things we could have done differently in the relationship. We do all this without really acknowledging the loss and feeling what the pain is all about. Recovery is available once equipped with the right tools.

I’m very much looking forward to experiencing the certification process, so that I can help as many people as possible understand that there is a proven path to recovery.

Intrigued? Want to know a little more? Feeling lost and broken? You are not alone.

If any of this resonates with you please feel free to connect with me on any of my social links and we can have a healthy conversation if nothing else.

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