“We find what we look for”.…
The first time I read that awesome collection of words it felt like someone had reached into my life and turned on a bright light.
Being equipped with that simple sentence has changed a lot of things for me. There was a time, and not all that long ago that I was focused on things that surface naturally.
You know what I’m talking about. The crap, the negative, the demoralizing, the pain, the frustration, the hurtful, the fear, the sorrow, the loneliness, the bleak, the misery, the mourning. All the things that seem to just take up residence in a life. Not just mine, I’m sure others can relate. These are things that we really don’t ever have to look for. They just appear. The difficult part about these undesirable companions is that they love to travel in packs. They seem to really get off on each other’s company. They visit and in some instances become emotional squatters and it seems like they have a right of their own to be present.
Well, let me share something with you! It doesn’t have to be like that.
Years ago while studying “Think and Grow Rich” through a pretty amazing group called “Keys to the Universe” (wish these guys were still around) and surrounded by some pretty amazing friends, this sentence seemed to take on a life of it’s own and it jumped right out at me.
I felt a quickening in my spirit but didn’t really understand what was happening to me. We finished up the training that evening and ended with an online care and share session like we usually did, said our goodnights and off we went, to venture back into our own little worlds.
I remember turning off the light in my office and heading upstairs and back to my real life. I stopped as I got to the top of the stairs and looked to my left into the kitchen, and then into my right into the dining room and it’s adjoining Living Room. I felt a weight but I didn’t know what it was. I grabbed a leash off the wall and beckoned for Domino to surface. I needed to get out of the house and search to find out what the weight was.
Without getting into detail, what I was experiencing were a number of the emotions and feelings I listed in the beginning of the blog entry. I realized as I meandered through the Neighbourhood streets, that all of the negative things have a way of simply “BEING”. I felt their presence, but something neat happened. I decided to let them go. I began making a mental list of the things that could potentially displace them.
I began thinking about the good things in my life. I had a wife that backed me 100%. It never mattered what I set out to take on, she is with me 100%. So gratitude was birthed, then I took in the simplicity of being out with a dog who loved me unconditionally and began to experience acceptance and a feeling of being needed and wanted. More gratitude. I began to feel a little less weighed down. I felt like there was a light starting to burn in parts of me that were dim and in some instances dark and scary to look into. The more I looked for the good things the lighter I felt, and more hope I had. It wasn’t long before there seemed to be a balance taking place in my life.
The negative things don’t leave, but they don’t carry the same front of the line stature that they usually have. The more I looked for the good things, the more balanced I became. One of the coolest things, at least from my perspective is the fact that even in challenging situations, or instances when I fall, or fail, or get pulled back into the crazy vortex of diminishing returns, I get to the positive side of every negative situation and it begins to burn brighter because it’s what i’m looking for.
So leave this post today, and understand that now that I’ve shared this simple yet powerful truth, you are equipped with the very same ability. Look at the list of negative things in your life, then look at all things that counter them and cling to those things. You have as bright a future ahead of you as anyone else on the planet. Now go and build your list.
Have a great day….unless you have other plans.